Recently I was asked to talk about my babies and here is what I wrote:
Thank you for letting me talk about the loves of my life - my boys. They are the only children I have and are my legacy I leave to the universe.....
Although they drive me crazy most times, and I forget some times - I love them very much. I will be away from home when they get this so hopefully they will feel my love for them through you..
Aisake
Two things come to mind when I think of Aisake as a baby/child. First of all as a baby - when he cried he used to go the reddest colour - in pure frustration or something - so much so that I wanted to nickname him 'Flick' like the little red fire engine! However Mr M would not have a bar of it so Aisake was saved from that nickname! The second thing, is that as a child, Aisake used to sing all the time, and talk and talk and talk and sing. It was sooo lovely hearing him sing - it's some thing that I still do - just start singing a song out of the blue, and by golly, could he talk... to the point where I used to have to ask him to 'zip it' at the dinner table so we could have ONE quiet moment - or at least let his brother say something. However, now he's a big boy - and a teenager to boot - he doesn't sing or talk much anymore - and I miss hearing him!! I can't wait until the teenage years go away and my baby comes back.
Dimitri
The one thing about my son Dimitri as a child was his attachment to his bottle. He held on to that bottle - despite people trying to tell him to lose it, advising and counselling me about it - for ages. I used to work with psychologists and I asked a Dr one day what I should do because he was still hanging on his bottle approaching his 5th birthday. She suggested that I keep him back a year and start him at school when he was 6 - all because of a bottle.... I don't know what happened but soon after and maybe a month or so out from starting school, Dimitri just stopped hanging on to his bottle - just like that! I can't tell you how many times and people went on and on about Dimitri and his bottle (and a lot of it not very nice either....) - only for him to decide when he was good and ready when he was going to not need it anymore. He is a determined young man to this day and is very clear on what he wants in life.
Twins
Being a twin, has been something Aisake and Dimitri have to live with. And although they can be nasty to each other, call each other names etc, they share everything to a point. But as children - my lasting memories of them will be when we used to sit in the lounge, watching tv for example - out of all the seats, couches or whatever - they used to sit on the same single seat sofa and somehow arrange their legs so they could keep each other warm - it was the cutest thing!! Reminds me of when they were born - due to complications, the boys spend some time in the baby intensive care unit. First of all they split them apart but they wouldn't settle - so they put both the babies into one incubator - and as soon as they did that - they wrapped their arms around each other and settled. The nurses commented that they had never seen anything like it before...I wish they would do that now, but I guess they are two grown up for that at the moment..... Having said that, at the end of this year/ beginning of 2014 as they go on their missions it will be the first time they will have been separated for such a long time, and although I am going to miss them both so much - I have a sneaking suspicion they will miss each other more.....
And even though my babies believe I am the strictest parent on the planet - I do it all in love and wouldn't do anything differently.
Yours in friendship, Mxo
