We got asked a question the other day which has caused me some time to think about it for some time.... the question:- "What do you do now that is better than you did 10-20 years ago?" What a gift of a question right? So I put up my hand and out came some pearlers - have a think about it - what are things that you do better now than you did some time ago.... Here are my top five.
Being Married
When I first got married, I was told that the first year was the hardest - which, in my opinion has proved to be a half-truth - because the truth is that every year is hard. But to answer the question - what I do better now than I do than I did 22 years ago was accepting Mr M for what he is and to stop trying to change him. When I married him - I thought he was perfect, but gee was I surprised when he had so many things wrong with him that I believed it would take me the rest of my life to change him.... What I learnt (and I'm a slow learner so it took a while!!) is that there was plenty wrong - but with me -and in time I learnt that it was I who needed to learn to be a better wife, friend, and companion... and I found over the years that in doing so - I ended up with the perfect husband (with some annoying habits ;-).... If the husband can live with his wife one day without quarrelling or without treating anyone unkindly or without grieving the Spirit of God in any way, that is well so far; he is so far perfect. Then let him try to be the same the next day. But supposing he should fail in this his next day’s attempt, that is no reason why he should not succeed in doing so the third day. Lorenzo Snow
Expectations/Acceptance
It is not like I have lowered or restricted my expectations but what I do really well now that I didn't use to do so many years ago is to accept what I have and to keep my expectations realistic. In truth, the older I get, the less I actually want and even then the list of wants is getting smaller and smaller - more refined..... "Do not expect to become perfect at once. If you do, you will be disappointed. Be better today than you were yesterday, and be better tomorrow than you are today.” Lorenzo Snow
Patience
I have been teaching the piano to little children for a loooong time, and the one comment I get most from parents is on how 'patient' I am..... There must be something to this, because my mother-in-law once commented on my 'patience' with the boys after watching me try and settle them when they would be crying at the same time..... I have thought about this often, and I think it could be true...... I have patience to an extent ;-) but I am almost 45 years old and it took it every minute of that to learn...."When we experience trying moments, then is the time for us to avail ourselves of that great privilege of calling upon the Lord for strength and understanding, intelligence and grace by which we can overcome the weakness of the flesh against which we have to make a continual warfare" Lorenzo Snow
Joy
I know joy now, whereas several years ago I didn't have a clue. What brought me happiness wouldn't even raise an eyebrow now - I mean it would make me happy I am sure, but having a clean house, or babies dressed in pumpkin patch is no longer ingredients to my happiness. Being with good friends, watching children laugh, or when everyone is home and asleep - that's where joy begins.... “My young friends, there is an opportunity for you to become great—just as great as you wish to be. In starting out in life you may set your hearts upon things very difficult to attain to, but possibly within your reach. In your first efforts to gratify your desires you may fail, and your continued efforts may not prove what may be termed a success. But inasmuch as your efforts were honest efforts, and inasmuch as your desires were founded in righteousness, the experience you obtain while pursuing your hearts’ desires must necessarily be profitable to you, and even your mistakes, if mistakes you make, will be turned to your advantage.” Lorenzo Snow
Writing
I have been writing for a very long time.... I remember writing stories at primary school - which must have been good because my favourite teacher told me so ;-) And, she also told my mother. I remember it was a story about clouds (I still remember the names of all the cloud formations - actually I only remember cumulus :-)).... Now I don't write about clouds but I write about other cool things - like my blog - and then some not cool things - like reports ;-) But what I know is that I write better than I did during my postgraduate degree - when my lecturer wrote on my essay - "obviously english is your second language - please come and see me" - those were the days!!
How would you answer the question - what is one thing that you do better now than you did 10 or 20 years ago?? Have a go and remember in the wise words of a great man - Lorenzo Snow - "The temptations that perhaps partially overcome us today, let them not overcome us so far tomorrow. Thus continue to be a little better day by day; and do not let your life wear away without accomplishing good to others as well as to ourselves.... Each last day or each last week should be the best that we have ever experienced, that is, we should advance ourselves a little every day, in knowledge and wisdom, and in the ability to accomplish good. As we grow older we should live nearer the Lord each following day."
Writing
I have been writing for a very long time.... I remember writing stories at primary school - which must have been good because my favourite teacher told me so ;-) And, she also told my mother. I remember it was a story about clouds (I still remember the names of all the cloud formations - actually I only remember cumulus :-)).... Now I don't write about clouds but I write about other cool things - like my blog - and then some not cool things - like reports ;-) But what I know is that I write better than I did during my postgraduate degree - when my lecturer wrote on my essay - "obviously english is your second language - please come and see me" - those were the days!!
How would you answer the question - what is one thing that you do better now than you did 10 or 20 years ago?? Have a go and remember in the wise words of a great man - Lorenzo Snow - "The temptations that perhaps partially overcome us today, let them not overcome us so far tomorrow. Thus continue to be a little better day by day; and do not let your life wear away without accomplishing good to others as well as to ourselves.... Each last day or each last week should be the best that we have ever experienced, that is, we should advance ourselves a little every day, in knowledge and wisdom, and in the ability to accomplish good. As we grow older we should live nearer the Lord each following day."
Yours in friendship,
Mxo
