As a rule I do not go to theatres to watch 'chick flicks' that are guaranteed to make me cry. For example, I am one of the handful of people who have never seen 'The Notebook', and I made sure that I never saw 'P.S, I love you' unless I was alone..... so it was out of the ordinary, you could say, that I went with my firend today to watch the movie 'The Vow'.
The Vow is based on true events (which is always a worry because the events made it into a movie because they were EXTRAORDINARY unlike the rest of us who are ORDINARY ;-)) and tells the story about a happily married couple who have a car accident and as a result of that, the wife - Paige, loses her memory. She does not have any recollection of her husband Leo or their life of her as an established artist (sculptor) and estranged from her family. In fact, she only remembers her life about five or so years earlier when she was still in contact with her family, engaged to another guy and at Law school.
Anyway, lately, and quite separate from this movie - but probably why this movie had an impact on me more than normal.... is I have been thinking about love and marriage. In particular, just recently three women I have known have passed away. All were widows, and had been for some time - one for forty years, and the other two for twenty plus years. I could not help but think about and find myself reflecting on this, even now, how joyous their reunions with their eternal companions would have been... Love is joy!!
Just the other day, I overheard an 82 year old friend of mine talking about her husband 'in absentia' .... and this is one of the things I love about her... you see, although she has been a widow for well over twenty years, she knows she is still married and talks about her husband as such, and treats her being alone without him as if he is just in another room going about his business. She knows that he loves her and misses her too. It reminds me that marriage is for this life and the next - I love it - thank you Rebe xx Love is eternal.
My son found this picture off the internet and I can't seem to take my eyes off it. I think it is beautiful and captures the circle of life perfectly. I look at it and I can see where he is in this cycle and where I am and where I am going and with who... I know if I go now or later, I am not afraid, because I know that Mr M and I are sealed for this life and into the next.I want him to know even though he may want a trade in or up in wives :-), that he is the perfect man for me and I love him dearly... Love is a circle.
I thought about Mr while I was in the movie and over the last several weeks and have come to realise how blessed I am that our paths crossed when they did... and for the blessings that have come into my life because he is my Mr ;-) I want him to know that even though our lives will NEVER make the big screen - that our love story is pretty cool.... because he's in it! Love is a blessing!
Anyway, I know that there are writers who made up the actual vows in the movie but I was so touched by them and with all that has been happening around me, that I have decided that I am going to give these a go for 2012 and see if I can keep these promises.... I'll let you know how I go :-)
I vow to help you love life
to always hold you with tenderness
and have the patience that love demands
to speak when words are needed
and to share the silence when they're not
and to live within the warmth of your heart
and always call it home
Yours in friendship,
Mxo
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