Travelling for beginners...

I'm 43 years old and I finally got to go to the USA. I was born in Hawaii and been there many times but to get to the states has been a long time coming!! So I get to go with my husband and our 17 year old sons and my husband's sister.... and this is what I learnt that hopefully will save you some time ;-)

DIETING BEFORE YOU GO HAS AN UP SIZE AND A DOWN SIZE ;-)

I went on a diet before I left. It was one of those ridiculous quick-loss ones where you eat 'air' practically every day ;-) I went on in specifically for one reason - to make sure I fit the rides. You see I am a big girl with a bigger appetite so there was no guarantee that I was going to be able to fit some things..... as it turned out - even after quitting my diet prematurely (before I got on the plane!!) I fit ;-) So tip number one - if you are going to go on a diet make sure it works (the downsize) and be prepared to have to go back on it after your holiday (due to the upsizing)!!

BUDGETING

We have friends that travel regularly and they have a formula of spending $100 a day between the both of them. So we figured we could do the same EXCEPT we hadn't figured into the equation that the children have to eat too (and making them pay for their food out of their spending money was a bit harsh ;-)) - so we quickly did some re-thinking on that one...which least to tip number two - figure out a budget that is realistic AND be prepared to make some changes all the time. The last thing you want to do is fight over money while on holiday.... that's a bit of a drag ain't it Mr M....

GET GPS

I don't know how people used to do it in the olden days - but thank goodness we didn't have to do it just recently....We almost left the airport without one due to booking problems so make sure you have booked and CONFIRMED your car booking WITH a GPS before you leave home. You may find that your GPS has a hard time breaking the male hearing barrier as I found with Mr M being not too good at listening to it (we heard "re-calculating" quite frequently) - but one thing I will tell you for free - Mr M got us to where we needed to go EVERY TIME ;-) Thank heavens for the GPS!!

PLAN, PLAN, PLAN

Some people like to turn up to things and see how they feel before making decisions which is awesome - however, tip number four is that unless you have perfect travelling conditions (weather, children, money, car, air conditioning - EVERYTHING is perfect!!) then I would suggest you plan as much as you can. I used expedia, vegas.com, and paid and printed tickets (even parking coupons) directly from amusement parks before we left the country. This cut down on heaps of waiting time in lines for tickets - HEAPs. Mr M went alittle further and had an itinerary - which was great but sometimes changes had to be made so as long as your plan has room for unexpected turns..... then it will work a treat!

ACCOMODATION

The one thing we got told to look out for was the best advice we could get - and that was to book accomodation that offers a free breakfast! Thankfully we did that and it was great - however the next time, I will investigate exactly what is breakfast as we had a range of a muffin and juice and/or a hot drink to a full cooked breakfast and two of our seven hotels had none (although one did give coupons for 20% off from a local eatery) The other thing I would make sure we have next time is free Wi-Fi - all but one had, however even with it - coverage was sketchy some days so it will pay to read the customer comments to make sure.... Why Wi-fi? For us it was so handy because I would go online every night and have a look for addresses for things that we were going to do the next day so all we had to do was input it in the GPS and after a few re-calculations we made it there...

FINALLY,

• Remember that the intention for all holidays is to make memories so do whatever you can to make sure that the ones being collected are the very best.
• Make sure you schedule in rest days or be prepared to recover when you get back because you have to make up those 'rest' hours somewhere.
• If you have been to somewhere before and travelling with people who haven't - be gracious about it and try and find something different or interesting because the people who are travelling with you are discovering things for the first time and it is ALL AMAZING!!!
• Not everyone wants to see what you do - so be prepared to go on your own...
• Take a camera.... and all the cords you have to keep it charged and all the connectors to take it off your camera and download to a laptop or an external source...
• Do what our friends told us to do but I didn't and will NEXT time - take the very bare minimum of clothes with you as you will find that your shopping will keep you dressed for some time....
• Travel with people you like and can be yourself with....
• Front of line passes are worth it at Disneyland but maybe not so needed at other places - so ask around...
• Ask around from people who are well-travelled for some more tips - you can never have enough although don't forget - no two people's experiences are going to be the same...
• Remember how blessed you are to be travelling and realise that many people you know will NEVER get this wonderful experience so be grateful for every one you have, and lastly,
• PLEASE  take me with you..... ;-)

Yours in friendship,

Mxo

Touchback

Trying to get my sons to prepare for their upcoming exams has been a struggle. I'm using everything that I know but trying to convince teenage boys to do something and the best (and probably not very effective) is  the old adage "the grades you get in High School now can set you up in life" In my mind, while I am saying this - I am asking did High School set me up for life?

What is so funny is that recently I watched a movie called Touchback which is about reaching potential and the impact the decisions we make at High School have on our lives.... The movie is about a guy called Scott Murphy who, back at High School was the star of the football team dying to get out his small town when an accident ends any dreams of him doing this... The movie starts with a grown up married with children Murphy who like many people in this economy - working hard, but really struggling with the bank foreclosing on the property which has belonged to his wife's family for generations. His wife is plain and simple but supportive and plods along working and raising two beautiful children. You certainly get the sense that life is not easy.

One day, an old football buddy (now a big-time NRL football star) comes to town with Murphy's High School girlfriend (who is a News Anchor on TV) and it's all a bit too much for Murphy... He tries to brush his feelings of failure off, but when his crops face ruin because of poor weather - his hopelessness and despair lead him to a suicide attempt. While he is unconcious - he returns back to school and gets to re-do/ re-live his life.

The movie then follows a younger version of Murphy and his decisions he makes that lead him to wake up to a better ending.... (which you will have to watch... ;-)) and it made me think - If I could, what would I change about my highschool years? I even asked Mr "If you could go back in time - what would you change from High School? If you knew then what you know now what would you do differently?" He paused and then said "nothing!". I can tell you I was relieved given that it was at High School where I met and fell in love with someone who has turned out to be one of the best men on the planet ;-) 

I, on the other hand, and in watching my boys start living through this, have given this some thought and there are some things I would 'tweak' if I could go back.....

Love yourself
Everyone thought they were fat at High School. This wasn't just restricted to my generation because even my sons are very careful about what they eat because they don't want to get fat. What they don't realise is that in a short space of time, they will join millions of us who look back at their high school photos and think - "Dang I was skinny then :-)" To my young self I would say - "love yourself, and enjoy your life as it is certainly more than what you look like... Fat my teenage self - will come, but it is not at High School" And note to self (old and young) - EVERYONE looked skinny back then because - HULLO - we were children ;-)!!

Listen
My science teacher told me to take general science in the 5th form so that I could experience a range of other subjects and add music or a language etc to my education... Instead, just the mention of "can't or don't" spurred me on and off I went to do Biology, Chemisty, and Physics to the end - and just because, I enrolled at University in Biology as well!! This trait of mine has continued unfortunately where you will find that if someone tells me I can't do something they may as well have pressed start! So to my young self I would say - STOP!! listen to your teacher and take General Science branching out to do something else like music!! ;-)

How to Learn
I never knew about learning styles until fairly recently and when I did find out I was not happy!! All those years of schooling, struggling to grasp concepts, ideas, information, facts, figures, and knowledge without an iota of how to learn. Instead I, and I suspect many others had to rely on my own God-given natural and raw capabilities which makes me cross. It didn't have to be that way. You see, once I was taught and understood how to learn utilising my preferred learning styles - I developed strategies around those that make it easier to capture and retain informaiotn - most times. I wish I knew this then.

Patience
I wouldn't of started seriously dating until I was old enough. What does anyone know at 15? I would go back to my young self and tell her to get real and wait because there was someone coming.... The flipside to this is that I am a better person for every experience I had as a teenager and may have been totally different when Mr Right did come along!! But patience is something my young self could have done with in bucketloads when it came to the affairs of the heart!!

Other than that - my High School years were packed with waterpolo practices, games and tournaments, piano lessons and exams, Phoenix house, Showcase performances and tours, friends, family, and church. I realise, and probably knew then that I was living a truly blessed life because of all of my experiences. And, unlike Murphy in the movie, although life is hard, - there isn't anything I would change (maybe tweak but never change) because I am exactly where I am meant to be.... Hopefully, this blog finds you in that place as well.

Yours in friendship,

Mxo

Not Julie & Julia :The Edmonds Cookbook

After watching the movie Julie & Julia, I thought I would do something similar but from the Edmonds Cookbook. I thought I would pick five recipes that I liked and would bake them and put them up on my blog. That was over a year ago! So I thought 2012 I'm gonna get it done - so here are four recipes...

Why the Edmonds Cookbook and especially for those of you who don't live in New Zealand? Well,  although it says that the cookbook is seen as "a favourite aunt in many families - thoroughly reliable, always helpful and regarded with great affection..." (Edmonds, 2006, p.8) - it actually reminds me of my mother...  For as long as I remember, we have always had one in the house. The recipes I remember the most were the scones - but those aren't featured today - why ruin that memory? ;-).

Before we start - a warning or two or three.... 1) Julie & Julia was an awesome movie that I have watched more than once and loved it everytime, but just confirming here that my baking is no Julie or Julia. 2) Julie & Julia was a very cool concept - but this is more about me, my mother and a New Zealand classic book so not copying I promise and 3) just in case you missed it - my baking is no Julia Child or Martha Stewart or even one of the blogs I follow called Chef in training.... so I'm asking you to have a look and use your imagination ;-)

Madeira Cake
We love Madeira Cake and the little loaf-like cakes you buy in the supermarket are getting both smaller and  more expensive so I thought why not make one myself and what do you know - the Edmonds Cookbook had a recipe and here it is.

Preheat oven to 180C and grease a 20c square tin and line the base with baking paper. Cream 250g butter and 1 cup of sugar until light and fluffy. Add 4 eggs one at a time, beating well after each addition. Stir in 2tsps grated lemon zest. Sift 2 1/4c flour, and 2 tsps of baking powder together and gently fold into creamed mixture. Spoon mixture into prepared tin and bake for 30 minutes or until the cake springs back when lightly touched. Leave in tin for 10 mins before turning out onto a wire rack. Before serving, dust with icing sugar. Verdict: «««1/2 loved the lemon flavour which came through nicely. Quite moist and proved popular in the Turketo home (popular meaning it didn't get thrown out for the birds) ;-)

Shrewsbury Biscuits

Shrewsbury Biscuits have been one of the staple snacks in our boys school lunches since they were little as I am sure is the same across the country. Anyway, one day I thought - let's see if the Edmonds Cookbook has a recipe for these and - da-dah!  I know you know what they are meant to look like - but here are my ones. Don't laugh, and if a chuckle slipped - don't worry - you aren't alone. They had to be the UGLIEST Shrewsbury biscuits I ever did see! the good news is that if you google these biscuits - there are plenty UGLY biscuits there as well ;-) Verdict: ««1/2 surprised they didn't brown more, they needed waaaay more jam than the recipe had, were quite hard and kinda spicy (the lemon zest coming through strongly)- probably more about me than the recipe ;-) Preheat oven to 180C. Cream 125g softened butter and 1/2 c sugar until light and fluffly. Add 1 egg and 1tlb grated lemon zest and beat well. Sift 2 c flour and 1 tsp baking powder togehter. Mix dry ingredients into creamed mixture. Knead well. On a slightly floured board, roll out to 4 mm thickness, Cut out rounds using a 7cm cutter. Cut a 1 cm hole in the centre of half the biscuits. Place on greased oven trays. Bake for 12 to 15 minutes. When cold, spread whole biscuits with 1 tsp raspberry jam (I don't agree!) and top with biscuit with holes in them Makes 22.

Chocolate cupcakes

I have friends who have a little business called KK's KupcaKes which are yummy - so one day I thought - I'm going to try and make some chocolate ones. In my clearing up I even found my tupperware icing tools so thought at least they would like okay.... BUT - note to self, wait until cupcakes are cold (as in cold, cold no warm) before icing ;-) Verdict: ««1/2 These weren't very popular (yes, made the throwing out for the birds standard ;-)) and will be trying again with another kind of cocoa and ice when really cold and will let you know how I go.... The recipe for these are found on page 40.

Pancakes/pikelets

The last one are piklets/pancakes. In the more recent editions of the Edmonds Cookbook the recipe for pikelets are gone so I use the pancake recipe and add sugar. Over the years I have made adjustments to the recipe to suit the tastebuds of my family but the basic recipe or formula is 1 egg to 1/2 c sugar to 1 cup of flour to 1 generous tsp of baking flour to 3/4 c of milk. For my family of four I usually do a batch of 3-4 eggs. I use butter on a hot plate and the rest is yummyistory ;-) Verdict: ««««1/2

I don't know how Julie did it, following a years worth of Julia Child's recipes and blogging about it when I have only managed to do four - but it was fun. I'm yet to get into the dinner recipes, but looking forward to the challenges those will bring and who knows - there might be a part two of this blog to come ;-)

Yours in friendship,

Mxo

The highs and lows of my job....

I have resigned from my job. It was a great run while it lasted and it was time to move on which I am equally looking forward to doing. Consequently,  I was privileged to have been a guest of honour at my farewell dinner where thoughts and stories were shared and I was honoured by the kind words that were spoken...

Here are some of my top five memories/stories...

1) The funniest

An incident came across our senior management desk which I will remember forever. In short, a ball had smashed a stained window of one of our beautiful buildings. The window was an intricate pane that we were unsure of where and when it would be able to be replaced..... A claim was requested from the kaiako (teacher) of the tauira (student) that kicked the ball (and had no cause to be doing so - as his course was not a sports one) that smashed the window. The claim came through and I tell you no lies - the words that make me smile to to this day, are found in the answer to the question what happened?, to which the written answer was "the window picked up the ball and pushed it through the window...." The wind ;-) and no there was no reports of cyclones or tornadoes that day.

2) The sadest

As I worked for such a large organisation - there was inevitably going to be losses - of which were experienced with the deaths of a colleague, fathers, mothers (including mine), sisters, brothers and even babies. In fact I met the smallest tupapaku (body) in my life during my service and more than that, I my life was touched as I saw the physical and emotional turmoil and pain of his mama - of who remains in my thoughts to this day. Next to this is when a tauira took his own life - that was a tragedy and was again one of ths sadest times of my employment. 

3) The hardest

Over the years I have had to inform people that they were going to be made redundant. I have had to do this on so many occasions that I can't recall the number, but what I can do is remember how hard - not in terms of skills required to do it, but in actually informing someone that their livelihood was over. It was sobering, and no matter how many times I did (and without training) - it was still the hardest. In fact when I saw the movie Up in the Air - I totally related to it... totally.

4) The best

I loved the vision of the organisation I worked for and will always be privileged to have been part of it for so long.... which was whanau transformation through education. This was no more evident than at the graduation ceremonies that are held every year. I will always remember the people the crossed the stage so happy in their achievements acompanied by the calls from the audience of their whanau (family). I was always stirred by the pride of the families as they did a karanga, or shared waiata or haka.

5) The places

The one thing that I will miss about my job are the places that I have had the privilege to visit. Being a regional position I had the opportunity to travel throughout the Tainui rohe and saw things and been to places that I had never been before. Included in this are the many Marae throughout four iwi which will always be a highlight. Through work I have also travelled throughout the country and stayed in accomodation that I would never have had the chance to before, including Sydney and Melbourne. But I have to say that nothing will ever take the place of climbing Taupiri maunga to celebrate Matariki this year - now that was priceless.

So I thank the people I worked with, many of whom I will never forget - because without the them (and they know who they are) there would have been no memories. 

Yours in friendship,

Mxo

Time after Time

Thinking of lessons that I have learnt is proving to be more difficult than I thought until I thought about something that I am running out of - time. Is it just me or are the days passing by faster than ever? How can I reclaim time?

1) Create memories
I am a big fan of creating memories. When my children were smaller, I spent a lot of time doing things with them that would create memories. The only trouble is that my sons have no recall of all that trouble ;-) For example asking them what their favourite childhood memory is - resulted in blank stares.....I mean these children have travelled overseas since they were three years old ;-) The flip side to this is that when my time is stretched as thin as it is now - my son's recall of events have become amazingly crystal clear... like Mum you still owe me $40 from last week (and they have heaps of those memories!) All I need to do is to make memories for my sons now...

2) Capture the moment

The best item that I have ever bought is a digital camera. When I remember I take that little item with me and snap away. I am not going to win any photography awards but what I capture lasts much longer. Photos are one of the reasons why I joined facebook so that I could actually see people that I haven't seen for so long... In this photo here, which incidentally I got off facebook, are members of my whanau - my beautiful mother (sitting in the front with my sister), her parents, two sisters two brothers, one sister-in-law and one brother-in-law, my brother, and two of my cousins. The special thing about this photo is of the fourteen people captured in this picture - only six of us are left. I miss every person in this photo that is no longer here and looking at this picture reminds me of what it will be like to see them again. I can't wait!!

3) Slow down...
I think I am finally getting to an age where I am not in rush all the time. The urgency of matters is still critical and lets face it the older you get the more matters there are..... but I'm not in a rush. Something has happened inside me when I turned 40 that actually made me change the way I see things and take things slower....probably why I am always late ;-(

4) Major on the Majors, Minor on the Minors
I learnt this new phrase - major on the majors and minor and on the minors. It means to concentrate on the big things and let the little ones go. This is not as easy as it sounds but in order to make up time, it comes in handy. The time and energy put into chasing something is draining, so if you are following up something - make it count. My brother has had some personal information shared with friends overseas which has come back to him. He was upset about who told who and so on. I asked him - Was the information true? Yes. Well then, there isn't a problem... I figure my brother has two choices 1)He could go out and try and get some redress for this slip by one of his truest friends or 2) Let it go. For me it was simple - the information would get out to your friends anyway - and at least it was shared by someone you trusted so that it was factual... hurtful, but still the truth.

5) Spend it
I was travelling home from somewhere and I had an ephinany: I need to spend time to make time. I don't spend enough time with my sons and I need to do this. I keep thinking about the saying that you don't think about your work in your last hours - its your family that are going to occupy those moments. I now have to re-create that in my every day. So wish me luck as I do something that I should have been doing all this time....

An ode to Time
Time is free, but it's priceless.
You can't own it, but you can use it.
You can't keep it, but you can spend it.
Once you've lost it you can never get it back.”

Have a great week everyone. May you use the next seven days well..

Yours in friendship,


Mxox