Teaching an old dog new tricks....

Now I have an old dog. I've talked about her before and could easily fill a book about her.....

I got Simba (a Bichon Friese cross) when she was a little puppy the year my sons were born. Originally intended for my mother - she quickly attached herself to me like a paua ;-) I have heaps of memories of her but my fondest are when she was a puppy and she would be all curled up under my neck while I had a son on each arm propped up by pillows and off we would head into our little afternoon nap....   or when the boys would be in their cot and start crying which would set off this little dog who would run up and down the hallway to try and get my attention, so I would know that they needed me - as if the crying of twin babies wasn't enough to wake the neighbourhood ;-) I love my dog.

She has seriously grown old. Cataracts in both eyes which give her that classic glassy look that our old folks get, absolutely deaf, fused bones in her back, arthritis, a pair of struggling kidneys and now a weeping benign tumour on her back that is refusing treatment - but she will still get up when she knows I am home - something that used to take her seconds now takes a good several minutes.... but she comes and I love her.

I can't teach her anything new... unless it is around the location of her food and water ;-) She can still, at respectable 16 years is old remember the old ones - she can fetch tennis balls, and catch a tennis ball in her mouth, but forgotten a really important one like scratching the door if she needs to go out, or bark for one of us to open the door....

Here are some things I am doing to teach myself new tricks

Just do it!!
I have an appreciation of what it must be like for Simba in terms of getting old - but I am tryying to break the cycle as someone who is slowing becoming more forgetful with age - and learn a new trick. I am learning a whole second language ;) Recently I have enrolled in a Te Reo Maori course called Te Putaketanga o Te Reo through Te Wananga o Aotearoa 

It may take longer - but it is worth it.
One of the first things we were asked to do was to find and write our pepeha (our connections) and recite it in front of our class first and then later in the evening in front of other classes....Now I guess this would have been an easy task for most of the class as they knew theirs - or are still connected to their Marae and their whanau. It appeared easy for the young ones because they pick things up soooooooo quickly. But for a number of us, age and upbringing was against us, in terms of having little to no exposure to the language or the culture... and off we went. The learning took most of the day - but I said it aloud to my class mates then I did it off by heart in front of a crowd of about sixty people - and almost died!! - but I did it and it was awesome. The recitation wasn't awesome - in fact it will go down as one of the worst speeches I have ever made, EVER - but the accomplishment was choice and the learning - beautiful.

Make it relevant
My Kaiako (tutor) talked us through the many parts of a pepeha and the significance of what we were saying and I felt myself learning.. which helps when learning something new. New things have to mean something when you get older. For my brain to learn it, it needs to put it into a context and prioritise it with everything else that is going on. When once, it would have been learnt and stored in minutes or seconds - now it has to be given a place in my fading memory and the explanations made it read and worthy of a spot up there in my brain ;-)

Be ready - and don't waste any more time.
It took longer than it probably would have when I was younger - but I wasn't ready for this journey until now. In fact, its twenty two years since I first took a Te Reo Maori class at University and I am finally ready for this. I am a second chance learner, I am older and I am learning a new trick.....

Don't be afraid to take on new things. It's not going to be easy peasy like it was back in the day but like the Hair Dye advertisement - you are worth it. If the truth be known - research shows that the best way to keep your brain nice and fresh (although getting older) is to learn something different all the time ;-)

Have a great week whanau

Yours in friendship

Mxox

Begin with the end in mind

I heard these six words from a mother talking about how she had helped her son gain this awesome achievement and I thought it was the most profound six words I had heard in a very long time. It struck me and has rattled around in my mind since then, because you see, I believe I am on this path which I call happiness.... To be happy is the ultimate goal or the end that I have in mind for me...

This is what I am doing...

I am not my job

For the last five years I have had this really great job - the money is the best I have ever made, its doing something that I enjoy, it comes with a car and a blackberry and all the trimmings that a manager at my level would ever want for. However, what it didn't come with was the luxury of time with my children and husband.... so after five years of saying that I was going to put them first - I have and I quit. Granted it took a week to get that organised in my head - I am now the happiest I have ever been for the last..... five years!

I no longer welcome excess

At the beginning of the year I set my goals and as I do every year I make a word chart and on my chart I have added some health and exercise words because at that time I had made the decision to do something about my excessive lifestyle and three months into this year - I feel the best that I have for the last three years -and I am happy! I am exercising at least three times a week for the first time in too long and I am happy.

I am a mother

During the summer holidays, my son stayed at a friend’s place, and he talked about the beautiful meal that he had had - but his comments struck me the deepest when he said - "how come you can't be like the other mothers and be home when I get home from school".... that started the wheels rolling for me and definitely reminded me that I have a role greater than anything I will ever achieve in this world and that is of a mother. So far this year, my babies are coming to me more often to help them with their schoolwork, because I am home more and it is so satisfying. I get to teach and share and it is makes my soul smile.

When a door closes - another opens

Whether you are religious or not - I believe that we have a kind and caring Heavenly Father that knows us and loves us and listens to the words of our heart. In just the short amount of time that I have made some massive changes to my lifestyle - I have had opportunities present themselves to me from the most unexpected directions... It has allowed me the luxury of considering a number of options very carefully.

Love is healing

In the past five years, I have had the chance to work with so many different people and it has been, both, challenging and difficult as well as some of the most rewarding in my lifetime. It has also introduced me to some of the most unattractive souls that I have met to date. However, recently, those events that have marred a lot of my daily work have been washed away by the genuine love of my family, friends and my closest colleagues and I am blessed.

Begin with the end in mind

I can literally see my word chart unfolding before me and I am happy. Don't get me wrong, there have been tears of frustration and joy along the way. I am nervous, and alittle scared and definitely unsure of what is coming up - but it is going to be okay because I have already started with the end in mind…. now I just need to keep working my way towards it ;-)

You don't have to make the big changes - but be brave and make some that will help you have a better life - especially quality of life.

I look forward to seeing you on your journey....

Yours in friendship,

Mxox